Thursday, December 28, 2006

Skills for better listening

  • Teach children to listen... gently touch a child before you talk... say their name.
  • Speak in a quiet voice.. whisper sometimes so children have to listen... they like this.
  • Look a child in the eyes so you can tell when they understand... bend or sit down.. become the child's size
  • Practice listening and talking: talk with your family about what you see on TV, hear on the radio or see at the park or store.(Talk with your children about school and their friends.)
  • Respect children and use a courteous tone of voice. If we talk to our children as we would our friends, our youngsters may be more likely to seek us out as confidants.
  • Catch children and teens being good. Praise them for cooperating with you or their siblings, or for doing those little things that are so easy to take for granted.
  • Use door openers that invite children to say more about an incident or their feelings. "I see,""Oh,""tell me more,""No kidding,""Really,""Mmmmm,""Say that again, I want to be sure I understand you."
  • Prasie builds a child's confidence and reinforces comunication. Unkind words tear children down and teach them they just aren't good enough.
  • Children are never too old to be told they are loved. Saying "I love you" is important. Writing it in a note provides the child with a reminder that he can hold on to.
  • Give your undivided attention when your children want to talk to you. Don't read, watch TV, fall asleep or make yourself busy with other tasks.

Cited from www.kidsource.com

Parenting is a tough job ...

Grace and Samuel are two wonderful kids. Both husband and I highly appreciated God for giving us such great gifts. Everytime we saw these two beautiful kids, we just feel how lucky we are!

But good kids, better expecting. I always tell myself I should help them find the right, the best path which will lead them to great success. Sounds good? But it is hard!

Yesterday Grace had a big battle with us. She complained we gave her too much restriction... She is just five years old. She just want to do whatever she wanted. What should I do? How can I tell her why she have to live under rules...

I feel I am stuck. I need help. I googled. And I find this...
Good parenting in kindergarten increases chances of good kids in fourth grade